Being truly happy is a sentiment you experience without a tinge of pretension It’s being joyful in the midst of your current life situation. Happiness is that thing which drives us to achieve whatever we desire and to be our best in that chosen path.
It is not much a surprise to know that researches have revealed the relationship between happiness and success. Happy people largely succeeds in life regardless of their set goals.
It’s true that somehow we can be contented and blissful with the kind of life that we were blessed with, however, negative emotions plague us with the ‘what ifs’ in our head. What if I was born wealthy? What if I was more intelligent? What if I have that kind of life? What if I have a different set of parents?
So how do we really find that very elusive happiness? That very genuine joy inside our hearts so at least we can be fueled to work for a better life and be self-determined? It’s definitely never an overnight process, in a sense we can’t just reset or rewire our brains to feel happy and to just have happy thoughts and fly away (like Peter pan). It takes practice my dear friend. It’s a habit and a mindset that we need to develop. And so I have here some key points. Go over it and try to process 🙂
Gratitude is the Key
Not everyone is given a sort of a perfect life. Remember happiness is not guaranteed by a seemingly perfect life. Many are able to find a spouse or a partner but later realizes that they want to be out of the relationship (the case of Stripe, Hope for the Flowers). Some are born filthy rich and yet can’t find life’s meaning (take the case of Gautama Buddha when he was still a Prince). The pursuit of happiness whether it’s long-term or short-term means reorienting your brain to focus on what you have and NOT on what you don’t have. Sometimes we exert all our effort searching for happiness in the wrong direction and we just get lost. You fail to be happy because you did not search within. How about changing that mindset? Check out what you’ve got, be grateful about it and feel the happiness filling up your heart 🙂
Develop a Mantra for the Day
Learning to speak to yourself (in a good way) is very essential to be happy. Choose a positive Mantra for the day which you will repeat to yourself. It may be…”You are such a great person, so unique and one of a kind! You are awesome in many ways!” This will certainly bring you to a good mood, you’ll be able to uplift your spirit. This will eventually create good vibes that will surely be felt the whole day. The universe will surely return the favor by giving you the goodness that you desire and that will surely make you happy 🙂 Make it a habit!
Celebrate Life and Be Hopeful
Life is not just about suffering, yes it is filled with challenges. But remember, life will definitely be a bore without these obstacles. It is when we overcome our challenges that we experience happiness! Indeed each has his own battle to win but it’s entirely how we approach the issue that really matters. So just go on…strategize and attack the problem however you think it’s appropriate. But after the battle..celebrate..appreciate your ‘self’. Either you treat yourself to an ice-filled beer or a steaming hot coffee or a nice spa or a delightful meal in your favorite diner…it’s your call! Celebrate these little victories and be hopeful about life.
Work, Work, Work
I am absolutely not referring to employment or your gainful job. What I mean is learning to get out of your shell to find ways to be productive! Idle people are sad people because their thoughts often revolve around insignificant things. Happiness is achieved with actions and not just thoughts. There are definitely millions of ways to be busy even if you are stuck at home or in your room 🙂 We need to engage and be happy with the many things that we can do…you are a person with gifts. You just need to explore by looking inward and in that case understand what really will make you happy. It can range from doodling a portrait, creating good recipes or even re-painting your home. You see all of these productive activities can make you a happy person 🙂
Never Compare Yourself with Others Around You
Recent studies have revealed how the workings of the social media have triggered our brain’s survival instinct best to protect and keep us safe. This negates our ability to feel elation, contentment and bliss as we witness how others are making it ‘big’ in their lives (as they consistently post about their ‘good life’) while we fall below societal expectations.
This brings me back to those years (early 90’s) when incidentally I was invited in an expensive hotel to witness the induction of a popular fraternity at the University. I sat with some member-students who brought along their elegantly dressed girlfriends. One of them asked me if I am from the same school, I said ‘yes’. And without batting an eyelash they all exclaimed “oh, we thought you were from another school!” 🙁 Suddenly I was Cinderella after the clock struck 12 🙂 You see, it is not ourselves who robs us of our right to be happy! It’s perpetrated by people whom we look up in awe while they judge us down.
Nobody wants to feel bad about themselves. It’s time to STOP HURTING YOURSELF! Get rid of those negative emotions,develop the power from within and perfect those skills & abilities. Soar high and don’t be pulled down by envy and resentments, they’re but toxicities in life.
Key Takeaway
Happiness means learning to understand yourself, appreciating what you can do and what you’re good at and believing that everything will be alright. Those spiraling negative thoughts and worries must be set aside. There are things that we cannot control so never allow it to plague your mind. Happiness is a choice, it is not sourced from others. The pursuit of happiness is not as difficult as you think…it’s just within you my friend 🙂
Credits: This post is inspired by a friend, E. Balagot. A wonderful person with a great mind & spirit.
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